A resolution free zone…

I don't make New Year's resolutions.  Why?  Because resolutions typically fail.

Let's talk about this - I speak in terms of goals.  Goals are concrete desires/ambitions whereas resolutions are a firm commitment to do or not do something.

A small distinction but an important one.

Resolutions also tend to set people up for failure - if your resolution is to work out 5 days per week for an hour each time and you work out 3 and one was 30 minutes, then it's simple to get discouraged because you broke your resolution.  BUT if your goal is to improve your fitness and you worked out the same can you say you made progress towards your goal?

You betcha.

No matter what you call it though, tomorrow offers a brand spanking new chance.  Remember those pics of 2009 Jen?  She started on a path to a new life in 2010.  It wasn't fast or easy.  And the 10-15 pounds I need to lose again?  That ain't going to be easy this time either.

But can 2015 be your year?  Can it be the year you got back to your high school weight?  Can it be the year you ran your first 5K?  Can it be the year you quit smoking?  It sure as hell can be.

Keep these things in mind - Progress, not perfection.  The journey of 1,000 miles begins with the first step.  If you're doing it right you will cry tears of joy and tears of sadness - sometimes in the same day!

Can you support me in my efforts?  Because I hope to be a small support in helping you!!

One last day…

There is one last day left in 2014.  Hard to believe.  Time to make some goals for 2015, right?

Today was low key for me.  I finished up almost everything that I had on my “to do” list and just chilled.

I did start today off – while watching The Walking Dead marathon – with a 7 mile treadmill run. 

I came up and checked my stats and with that run I ran an even 1,250 miles in 2014.  Not bad considering how much I had to cut back in mileage due to injury! 

When you add biking, walking, elliptical and hiking to that number, I come in at having traveled 2,316 miles and –according to Runkeeper, I burned 227,131 calories – hey that’s about the number of calories I ate Xmas day!!

So, I guess I’m going to have to bite the bullet and weigh myself.  I have been feeling pretty good and I’m hoping seeing the number in cold black lettering won’t completely throw a black cloud over me. 

Where do you stand heading into the new year?  Feeling good?  Scared?  Ready?  Let me know!!

I am frozen SOLID!

Not sure if you guys are aware, but in my job we are actually forced to take the week between Xmas and New Year’s off – using our vacation time of course.  Isn’t that all kinds of fucked up?

Through begging – I am allowed to work one day and this year will be Wednesday.  So, since I am using my time and have the days off I’m trying to make the most of it.

This is decidedly NOT my time of year that I would like to take off, for sure.  I like to take the time off where I can lay out in the sun!

Anyway, so for Xmas this year, one of the gifts that I bought Marc was the Garmin Virb Elite.  Marc has been wanting one of those action camera that are really popular now and I did something I hate – I did exhaustive research on a techie item to determine the best one!  Anyway, I think I made the right choice for Marc’s needs and wants!

Today we took the dogs out to a beach to run around and play.  It was effing COLD and windy there!  So we didn’t spend a lot of time there as I wanted to.  But the dogs got to run up and down the empty beach and chase balls and have a grand old time!

Marc brought his Virb and took a short video of them playing.  You can hear how windy it was – yuck! 

Chakotay and Archer on the beach

But the boys had a great time and the sun was partially out so I got some sun.  Win-win.

On the way back, we went right by out vet’s office so I stopped to run Chakotay in and get an official weight on him – 89 pounds!!!  My little pudgster and I both will be working on trimming numbers won’t we?

Today was a success eating wise – a healthy lunch and then for dinner we had catfish for the first time!  I loved it, but Marc was not so thrilled.  Paired with quinoa and kale?  I consider that a very healthy dinner.  Closing the year out, I am slowly getting back on track!

What does the future hold?

For those of you that have never met her, I’d like to introduce you to December 2009 Jen.  2009 Jen was huge.  She had to shop online for clothes for the most part because regular stores didn’t carry her size.  She had sleep apnea and her knees hurt.

2009 Jen had a lot of denial going on.  She had a husband who loved her and had convinced herself she was fit because she could take the dogs on a 2 mile walk.  So she was alright, right?

2009 Jen knew she wanted to lose weight, but she had for years – and had done very little to make it happen.

2009 Jen had absolutely no idea how her life was about to change.

Now I want you to meet December 2011 Jen.  Her life had changed a lot in the last 2 years.  She had started eating healthy and losing weight.  December 2011 Jen had not only run her first mile, but had actually raced in a 5K race. 

December 2011 Jen was getting a lot of compliments from people.  It felt good.  She had more energy and had ditched the sleep apnea machine.  She was shopping in not just normal stores, but the normal sections of stores!

And here my friends, is December 2014 Jen.  This Jen has done a lot since 2011.  She hit goal, went through surgery to remove excess skin and has experienced gaining some of her weight back.

She also has run half marathons and has a richer and fuller life then she ever expected.

She still struggles on a daily basis with eating right and exercising and this has surprised her some.  But when she looks back to December 2009 Jen, she sees how far she has come!

As all of us count the few remaining days to 2015, we are plugging in our goals.  For those of you out there who may be in just the beginning of your journey – take a look at how different the Jen pictures are just 5 years apart.

And remember – I am not special or amazing.  I am just a normal chick who made choices to transform her life.  If you start, you can reach your goals, too!  You can look back at your December pics 1, 2, 10 years from now and see how different your life is!!  I didn’t have faith that I could do and yet – here I am! 

I’ve got some weight to lose and some goals to accomplish – join me, will ya?

From the Captain Obvious files...

Putting all the Xmas decorations away is not nearly as enjoyable as putting them up!  But that's what we did today.  I always love getting the house decorated, but re-claiming space in my living room is a relief.  The cats were not as happy to see their hiding space - aka the tree - disappear! 

I am also cleaning space in my head.  I unfortunately had to watch at Xmas as someone who I care about was brought down emotionally by being treated like shit by family for no reason.  I have been thinking about this a lot and I realized - no one should be subjected to that treatment - especially by family.

When I was fat, I let people disrespect me and treat me like crap.  I think part of me felt I deserved it - for being such an embarrasment.  But whether I'm fat or thin, I DON'T deserve it.  Neither does the person I care about.  And, if you are in this situation, you don't either!  So part of my goal for 2015 is to not allow myself to be anyone's doormat!  To be labeled as less than.  And I hope you will stand up for yourself!

In other news I have to share how happy I am about Chakotay.  People who have kids brag on their kids all the time.  I have dogs so I'm gonna brag on them!!

Yesterday I took the dogs running and walking for 12 miles and I worried later that I might have pushed Chakotay too hard.  But this morning he was raring to go.  The mild weather continues so we took a 6 mile walk.  Afterwards we played outside and Chakotay ran around and chased a ball and even brought it back.  "Fetch" has never been one of his strong suits lol!!

For Archer this is no biggie but for my lazy fat boy (which I say with love) - it's a sure sign that he is getting more fit.

So for both of us - we are heading into 2015 in good shape fitness wise.  But we both need to curb our eating!!

Deconstructing Xmas!

Well, we made it guys – we’re past Xmas!  So now what?

I don’t know about you, but I’ll be taking time to sit back and evaluate where I stand and where I’m going.

We went to Marc’s sister’s house for Xmas yesterday.  I was worried that his father’s diagnosis would put a damper on the celebrations.  But, happily it did not.  His dad was in extremely good spirits and no one dwelled on the cancer diagnosis – we did talk a little about the upcoming test which will tell us more, but everyone was positive and upbeat about it.

I think we were all just glad that he was here and healthy for this Xmas.  Next year is not promised to any of us so it only makes sense to enjoy it while we can. 

I will have to face the scale at some point, but it wasn’t today.  Have you ever heard of the strategy some people use for quitting smoking?  Where they lock themselves in a room and smoke like crazy until they basically make themselves sick and then they don’t feel like smoking again.

I think I might have done that with sweets!  After the last few days, all I wanted today was healthy food!

I also got out with the dogs and did 12 miles running and walking.  I felt great!

So I feel ready to face the new year with some positive energy.  I hope everyone else out there is feeling optimistic about the future!

Merry Christmas!!

I am wishing everyone out there a Merry Christmas!

I hope you have a fun, festive and drama-free day!!

A Xmas miracle of sorts…

It feels like a miracle.  I stepped on the scale this morning and it read 119.7 – NOT!!!

That really would be a fucking miracle!!!  That number is but a distant memory.

But there was a miracle of sorts today.  First, because of the short week, I had to run two courts today and juggle getting everyone drug tested and conferencing with 2 different groups of people.  And it went more smoothly then I ever could have wished for!

Then, forecasts have been calling for torrential rain and high winds in our area today.  While this is coming - we are promised, it did not happen today.  Instead, come lunch time it was overcast and damp, but around 42 degrees and not raining.

For the second day in a row, I changed and headed out to run.  And run I did.  I was really sore after running a 10K yesterday, but soon loosened up and for the second day in a row, felt great!  I ran 6.58 miles and it was glorious.

When I got back to work, I prepared lunch and thought about how great I felt.

In fact, in just about every freaking aspect of my life right now – except a scale number – I feel so happy and positive.

And then I thought FUCK THE SCALE!  It is a number.  That’s it. 

So, clearly the high of Xmas is getting to me.  And I’ll probably crash afterwards.

But being able to run makes me optimistic that I can burn it off come the new year.

And for now, I just want to enjoy my time with family and not worry about my weight.

So that’s the plan my peeps – how about you?

Perspective or Rationalization?

I have a 2 day work week this week.  So I headed in this morning pretty excited to kill 2 days and then it’s time for Xmas!!

Today was – by Northern NY standards – a gorgeous December day.  It was 38 degrees, no wind and about mid-morning the sun started to peek out.  So it wasn’t a mental struggle to get my ass out there for a lunch time run.

I felt pretty great – I am faithfully doing 20 minutes of electrical stimulation on both the Achilles as well as newly developed Planter Fasciitis (sigh…) every night, and there was little pain.  I warmed up almost immediately and felt strong and relaxed as I did my regular route around the city.

When I got back to work I started thinking about my weight gain.  And the one side of me made this pitch:

“Listen, you are a 42 year old formerly morbidly obese woman who just ran 6.25 miles in 51 minutes.  You are wearing a size small dress.  And, more importantly you are a good person.  Gaining or losing weight doesn’t change that!  So, give yourself a break – have some cookies without guilt.  You’ll get back on track!”

Then there was the other voice who sternly said:

“Ok, so you were able to run, big whoop.  Your time was slow compared to the past because you’ve gained so much weight!  Go ahead and eat that cookie and tell yourself you’re fine.  But you’re just going to keep gaining weight.  You’ll get fat again like so many other people who lose weight.  And you’re a good person?  You want to be a big FAT good person?”

No one warned me what a mental game this continues to be.  I feel a little alone here, guys – am I the only one struggling with my weight this holiday season?  Am I the only crazy person who wages war in my head?

Are maybe both voices right?

 

Success?

As I continue to evaluate where I stand, I was thinking whether or not today had been a success.  I was looking up definitions and quotes about success.

It seems like people have vastly different ways of defining success.  Some define it as happiness.  Some definitions talk about how well you face adversity.  Some people claim to be a success because they are happy.

So I can use a dry, dictionary definition, but when you’re talking about life, it doesn’t always fit into black and white definitions.

Today I got up and immediately got a new chicken recipe out and got it going in the crockpot.  My plan was to take the dogs out for a walk and run, but it was pretty cold.  I decided I would wait until the afternoon.

Marc went over to check on his father.  I played on the computer but then decided that I should get some cleaning done in preparation for everyone coming over.  That turned into a cleaning frenzy. 

By the time Marc got back I was in the midst of cleaning and when he asked if I was going to work out I told him I was instead going to finish cleaning and then would work out after lunch.

After lunch, it was still cold, but the sun was peeking out, so Marc and I decided to try biking.  We suited up – and went for a 16 mile ride – about all we could take in the cold!

We got home in time for me to warm up while watching the end of the Dolphins game and then we went down to the workout room to lift some weights.

We then ate the chicken with some roasted veggies. 

So was this a successful today?  NOPE.  Because did I mention I also ate 2 cookies today?

Metaphor time…

Let’s play pretend for a minute, can we?  Let’s suppose one day you walk outside and there sits a $10 bill.  You look around and don’t see where it might have came from.

So you consider yourself lucky and pocket it.  The next day you go out and there sits another $10. 

And then for the next few years every time you go outside, there’s money waiting for you.  The amount varies.  Sometimes it’s $100 sometimes it’s a measly $1.  You never know where it comes from.  But after a while you get used to it being there.  You begin to count on it.

And then one day, suddenly, there’s no money.  You don’t freak out – you’ve saved up.  One day of no money won’t hurt.  But then over the next few days there’s still no money to be found.  And panic starts to set in.  You’ve learned to count on this money.  You’ve planned your lifestyle around this money.

And it’s scary.  Because you don’t know where it came from in the first place – so what if it’s gone for good?

Ok, I think you guys might see where I’m going with this – I’m afraid that this is what has happened to my motivation.

You see, I don’t know why I made this life change.  And I don’t know why after 38 years, I started to take care of myself.

And I don’t know how I found the dedication and commitment to do things like run half marathons and work out twice a day every day.  To refuse to eat bad foods and focus on clean eating.

Like the money, I’m afraid the stream has dried up.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m doing pretty well.  I’m looking forward to Xmas.  My mood is great – especially considering that this is the shortest day of the year and I’m normally moping like crazy.  I’m kicking ass in organization – all my gifts are bought, wrapped and organized.

Today Marc and I bought everything we need for the party here and for what I’m going to make to take to his sister’s on Xmas Day.

I am prepared to clean tomorrow, but there’s not a lot I need to do.

But motivation to eat right and exercise?  That has just. fucking. vanished.

I want to eat recklessly.  I don’t want to lift weights or run.  I want to take it easy.  I want to hunt down every piece of chocolate on earth and cram it down my throat.

What if I can’t get it together guys?  What if January 1 hits and I still can’t get back to Thin Jen?  What happens then?

Hurry up and wait....

We're about at an interesting time that I face every year.  It's the time when I want time to speed up and simultaneously want time to slow down.  I am very excited for Xmas to get here, but then it's over way too fast.

With all that is going on in my life I find myself very reflective.  We are approaching the 5 year anniversary of when my life change truly started.  5 years seems like yesterday and an eternity ago all at once.

I feel like I'm going to be entering yet another new phase which is exciting and scary.

But for now, I'm going to coast to the end of the year - there's a lot of love and fun to be had over the next week!

Winner winner turkey dinner!

We take our victories where we can, right?

Today I am feeling good about some minor victories.

First off, I didn't eat my feelings last night.  Marc is handling the news about his father really well, and Dad is also doing as well - if not better - then we could expect.  He has to be stressed and worried, but ate lunch with Marc and ate really well - a big deal for an elderly man!  Marc checked on him today and he is hanging in there.

I've felt great about the support I've received from you guys - readers of my blog - for your comments about the silliness of my red hair to the seriousness of what we are and will be facing.

Today I received a visit from an old client who just happens to be battling cancer himself.  He is unwaveringly positive, clean and sober, and actively involved in the recovery community.  Seeing him renewed my faith in what I do...

We had a Xmas work outing today at a local restaurant  And while everyone else had burgers and fries, I ordered a salad.  I'll be honest that when those huge burgers and fries came (complete with a side of melted cheese) - well I threw a small mental pity party for myself.  But I know that I would have regretted it afterwards had a eaten a bunch of greasy fries. 

I am doing okay maintaining my weight - too high but maintaining - which is my goal.  I even squeezed into some pants today that have always been a little tight.

And remember that turkey I effed up a couple weeks ago?  Well, I stripped the meat and boiled the carcass the next day and froze everything.  I made it into a turkey soup tonight.  We’re just about to eat and hopefully it tastes good!!

Not what we were hoping for…

Well guys, I wish I had good news to report, but it is as we feared - the big "C" word.  Prognosis? We don't know yet, another test is needed.

It's easy to say that we're lucky - he is 96 years old.  And as someone who lost my father when he was only 42, don't I know that!  But it still fucking sucks.

Needless to say, this puts a damper on my good spirits, and all I can do is hug Marc and be grateful for every moment I have with my loved ones.

This is too simple to forget - we need to cherish those we love because life is too fragile.

In that vein, I called my grandmother today who was prepared to spend Xmas alone, but everyone was trying to convince her that someone or someONES from the family would get her from her place up here to have her spend Xmas with us.  Because Xmas is at my house, I thought I would specifically let her know that we would love for her to be with us.

She had to know this, but she seemed thrilled to hear from me and very excited to join us for the holiday.  I am lucky to have her still in my life – it’s easy to assume family knows this, but hearing it?  I think it mattered.

Putting things in perspective today....

Dear Achilles, Merry Xmas!

My Achilles received a present today – the electrical stimulation unit arrived by priority mail!

As I told you guys I ran/walked with the dogs yesterday for 10 miles, and I was pretty happy to not be in very much pain from it!  I got up in the night and was a bit gimpy, but nothing like in the past. 

But I wasn’t pain free, either, and that is the goal.  I’m hoping that doing the treatment daily will make a huge difference.  

Chakotay was also a bit limpy from the run, but he is great today – Marc even took the boys for a walk earlier and he’s not limping at all tonight!

I received mostly rave reviews from people for the red hair today!  One person even told me that she envied my “out there” style and I am confident she meant it as a compliment.  One woman I work with told me it was terrible as was the dress I was wearing.  **Sigh** you can’t win them all, I guess…

Overall, I am taking all of this as a good sign that the year is ending on some optimistic notes and am hopeful that the news regarding Marc’s dad tomorrow continues this trend.

 

Run and then run some more!

I know this!  I preach it!  And then I eat crap and think that I can take the dogs on a 10 mile run walk this morning and think that this will make things even!

But I'm choosing to look on the bright side of things today.  I ran and walked with the dogs today.  A total of 10 miles and 7.5 were running!  And my Achilles doesn't feel like agony!

That is a good thing, right?

While on paper I should be down in the dumps I'm not!  I'm upset about my weight, worried about Marc's dad (we'll know something on Tuesday) and feel a little restless right now.  But I also am excited about Xmas and feel optimistic about the upcoming new year.

I don't even regret the red hair!  We'll see how people react tomorrow!

Just a little change…

Here we are halfway through the month.  I can’t believe we have almost arrived at Christmas.  It will be here and gone before we know it.

In a lot of ways I feel completely and totally in control.  I have 1 gift for Marc that was shipped yesterday, but other then that, all my shopping is done, wrapped and organized. 

My house is pretty clean so there won’t be a lot to do before having everyone over for Xmas Eve.  Yesterday, I bought everything that won’t spoil that I’m going to make for Xmas and Xmas Eve.

Even with my exercise I’m okay.  After a very long day yesterday, I still got my ass downstairs and was running on the treadmill at 6:30 at night!

But then there’s my eating.  It’s the only thing I can’t get under control.  And while I’m okay not LOSING from now until January 1st.  I don’t want to gain a ton, either and that appears to be where I’m headed.  For a few days I’m great and then – well, not so much.

I am aching for a change.  My wonderfully beautiful and talented Aunt Karla posted a pic to Facebook of one of the rooms she decorated in her house for Xmas.  It is gorgeous – like something out of a magazine.  And my Uncle Kevin, who is slightly less beautiful, but just as talented (), commented that she should open her own decorating business.  And I jumped on that saying we could start a business together, because I LOVE decorating. 

I allowed myself for a moment to reflect on if I only had the courage to truly do something like that.  To pick up, move south and start a whole new adventure!!  I WISH I was that type of person.  Because I really feel like a need something different in my life.  Part of it is the weather – I keep telling myself that just another week, and we start getting more light.

Could I really be having a mid-life crisis?

So instead I made one little change – one thing that I had the courage to do that is no big whoop to most but to me?

Yes, I went red for the holidays!

Hey! I remember you!

This week Thin Jen made a valiant return to our lives.  She hadn't gone missing completely, of course, but she hasn't had the strong and much needed presence that I’ve been used to.

It has felt good to feel back in control.  Now, in reality, it's only been a few days, but knowing it's possible to be back on track is pretty relieving.  It is obviously about choices. 

This has been a pretty bland week without much to challenge my resolve.  And I know that I can and WILL be going off the rails several times before the month’s end.  But I am okay with that – my practicing.

I want to leave you with a video of Archer and my Hallmark Xmas decoration!

Open up and say ahhhh!

I almost had to eat my virtual words today.  Which would actually be fitting considering how I'm pretty much eating everything else in sight!!!

I said nothing would be unusual this week.  And then I woke up with a start at 2:20 this morning and the power went out.  So I waited and it flashed on and immediately back off.  Marc got up and confirmed that the lights were off all down our street.  So I set my phone to go off at the regular time and envisioned myself coming to work today without having showered and hair in a ponytail.

Fortunately, they restored it about 30 minutes before I had to get up.

I am starting to get into the Xmas spirit and dressed a little festively today and had Marc take my pic in front of the tree.  When he sent me the pics, I was pretty horrified at how terrible I look!

So I guess this serves as both my Xmas and my new "before" pic.  PLEASE let it be a before pic!!

My friend Jess told me today that she is considering that calories don't exist for the rest of this month.  Oh I so WISH that were true!!

BUT I want to end today's post on a couple positive notes - after running 6.40 miles yesterday at about an 8:35 per minute mile, I had almost ZERO pain last night or today.  And since we are expecting a huge storm starting tonight I decided to do another short run today.

I ran only 3 miles, but did it in 24 minutes exactly AND had no pain.  Whoop whoop!  I am feeling optimistic that I can be a real runner again.  Maybe not where I was, but at least my running career isn't over completely!

Marc is at the doctor's with his dad and will be home late.  The thought of pizza and stuffing myself sat in my mind for some time.  We deserve it!  But instead when he gets home there will be homemade tomato soup waiting for him and we'll make wraps with chicken and lots of veggies!

Practice, day 2, accomplished!!!

Dress rehearsal?

I have felt off kilter for a long time now.  From my injuries and physical therapy to being totally off track eating wise I just feel like I don't know who I am anymore.

So this morning I woke up and realized this should be a "normal" week.  I'm done with physical therapy, I am working a full week, and I have no parties or anything else planned that should derail me.

In theory, anyway!!

I was very busy at work this morning and looked out the window shortly before lunch to see filtered sun, very little wind and I was informed by the Weather Channel that the temperature was in the high 20's.

Fat Jen didn't have one of her many excuses to not run outside and we suited up and headed out.  For 6.5 miles.  My pace was slow and the weight I've gained was obvious with every step.  But I ran.  Mr. Achilles offered a little protest but I generally felt pretty good.

I could almost feel myself slowly returning to my new old normal.  Oh yeah - I remember what it's like to be a runner.  Oh yeah - I remember what's it's like to eat a healthy lunch!  Oh yeah - I remember what it's like to feel like a thin person.  Oh yeah - I don't have to throw myself a pity party today.

I can't promise you or myself that this mental reinvigoration will last.  But there is some research to show that when people practice healthy behaviors for some time without committing 100% to a lifestyle change they are more successful then people who suddenly decide to make the change all at once.

And I realized that's what I did in 2010.  I didn't set a deadline.  Instead I made some changes.  Like going from 1-2 Mountain Dews per day to 1-2 per week.  And from almost no exercise to walking a few times per week.

After some time "practicing" I made a full commitment and ended up 225 pounds lighter!

So December, you are a practice month!  And come January I will hopefully ready to be completely back to Thin Jen mode!!

Who wants to practice with me?

So….yeah.

Anyone been wondering where I have been?  Maybe not…

Thursday, the early December curse continued as we received some potentially bad health news about Marc’s dad.  We don’t know anything yet, so I’ll wait before entering drama mode.

Friday dawned and I had been asked to be a speaker for a group of professionals.  That, fortunately went off without a hitch.  I was able to spend a minute reflecting on the difference between speaking in front of a large group now versus when I was fat.  I always have been pretty good at and comfortable at public speaking, but there is even less pressure now that I don’t worry about being judged.

Friday night brought me to a housewarming party.  And stuffing myself silly.  I really am baffled why I can’t get back on track, eating wise.

Yesterday, though, I was determined to make some progress.  So first thing in the morning I was outside with the dogs and we did walk/run intervals.  Chakotay started off strong but was lagging some by the end, but in total we ran 7 and walked 3.  Not too shabby.

And then it was time to concentrate on making dinner for my mother for her birthday.

I had decided to make a full turkey for my first time ever.  I got advise from various people and bought those Reynolds bags.  First off, I didn’t remove the giblets.  We noticed quite quickly, forturately, but had to take the turkey back out of the oven, unwrap it from the bag, and get the giblets out. 

As a reward for their hard exercise that morning, the boys got the giblets! 

Mom and her boyfriend, Lee, arrived and I was quite impressed with the way everything was coming out.  I thought my timing was perfect.

Until we cut into the turkey and it was still pink.

Back into the oven and waiting.  When it was ready, Marc began cutting and – something wasn’t quite right.

Lee gently shared that we were cutting into the back.

Yes, I had cooked the fucker upside down.

I was pretty upset at my screw up, but really, the only harm was no crispy skin.  Which isn’t that good for you anyway.  The turkey was moist and I had made some acorn squash that I stuffed with fresh cranberries and walnuts.  That was awesome.

So despite some folly, it was a good evening.  But seriously, people, could I be a bigger IDIOT?

Today is the anniversary of my head on car collision when I was 16.  So I will get through today and leave the curses behind me!

Making it through the rain…

I made it through yesterday with only some sadness and melancholy.  You would think 24 years later (!) it wouldn't hurt as much, but as anyone who has lost someone - especially suddenly - can attest, those feelings don’t fade.

I do feel with this milestone passed I'm on the path to a good season.

My Christmas shopping is almost done!  I have been eating extremely well, but a huge test comes tomorrow.  3 employees are retiring so we are having a big party for them.  With PIZZA and salad.

Did I mention there would be pizza?  And cupcakes.  And brownies.

Fuck me.

Lol.

Of course I can eat the salad and I don't have to eat dessert.  Yes, that's a choice I can and SHOULD make.

And then there's the part of me that throws the I shouldn't have to be deprived tantrum.  We'll see.

I had my last physical therapy appointment today.  My Achilles has actually been really good.  I'm not 100% pain free, but I feel like I’m made huge progress and the last week it’s felt great even after running.  They have submitted the request for the electrical stimulation unit to the insurance company which should be approved so I can continue that treatment at home.

So, so far a good start to the true holiday season.  Onwards and upwards!!

Last month of the year!!

Welcome to December!  For someone who has slight *cough* OCD, starting a new month on a Monday has a certain perfect symmetry to it.

December 1st brings mixed emotions to me.  It's my mother's birthday.  I'm having her over this weekend for dinner.  I'd tell you what I'm making, but she reads this and I want it to be a surprise!!  I did call her to wish her happy birthday!

On the other hand, this day is always marred by tomorrow's anniversary of my father's death.  And this date marks the day we sent my Rottweiler, Riker, to the Rainbow Bridge after a horrific battle with bone cancer.

I've felt anxious and restless all day today.  Usually working out helps but a tough core workout at noon hasn’t touched it.  Even putting on Christmas music hasn't done squat to ease my mind.

I just want to get through the next couple of days and then can hopefully get into the holiday season!!