Tuesday, March 3, 2015

I give it a 10!!

10 years!  That's how long Marc and I have been married as of today!

We met, as many of you know in 1989.  Our first official date was to see the movie Pet Semetary - romantic, huh?  We have been together – virtually inseparable – ever since.

When we got married we were met with dire predictions about how getting married would change our relationship.  I kinda believed it.  But it didn’t happen.

And then 5 years ago – without words – we embarked on a major life change together.  Even though it was a positive and healthy change, it could have destroyed us.  A complete change - both good and bad - often destroys marriages.

I think this is true for many reasons.  Some of it could be jealousy - I didn't exactly have tons of men checking me out when I was morbidly obese!  I'm still not exactly a looker but I do get more attention then in the past. And Marc is not upset or threatened at all by this like so many men I know.  He trusts me completely as I do him.

He is the most non-controlling, supportive husband I could ask for.  If I didn't know it before, it became evident by how he had to wait on me and care for me after my surgery!!

I think we have lasted so long due to doing this together.  I don't think I would be as committed to eating healthy or to exercise without having him right by my side.  And we support one another without judgment or criticisms.  In fact, I would say were are closer now then we have ever been!

We are certainly not a perfect couple, and what works for us wouldn't work for everyone. But the best part is being with someone who makes you happy and encourages you to grow as a person.

We are not together because it is easy or convenient like many other couples I know.  We stay together because neither of us can imagine life without the other person.  We are deeply and passionately in love with one another.

I am feeling very lucky today!


1 comment:

  1. Congratulations! From your posts it seems like you are so in sync with each other. It is great that you have a deep appreciation for the special relationship.