Monday, November 19, 2012


I think one of my biggest strengths is also one of my biggest weaknesses.  In general, I don't give a shit what other people think about me.  I have a very - let's say - POLARIZING personality.  People tend to either "get me" and love me, or they think I'm obnoxious and can't stand me.  And guess what, I'm okay with either.

So this time of year I hear a lot of talking and stressing about seeing family over Thankgiving and what they are going to say and act around people.  Now first let me say that I realize how incredibly lucky I am.  In both my immediate family as well as with my in-laws, people are nothing but completely and totally supportive of me.  I spend Thanksgiving with Marc's family and I love them and I know that they love me completely and unconditionally.  And as far as my weight loss journey goes, I can't stress how supportive they have been.

So I get that I am lucky and that not everyone out there is in the same situation.  So how should you handle family at Thanksgiving if you are not as fortunate as I am?  Just remember that this is YOUR life!  Some of you are bound to hear comments that you have lost "too much".  Or, the opposite - I saw a post from one woman today on a weight loss site that I am on saying that last year - after she had lost 40 pounds - that a relative commented that it looked like she had gained!  How horrible is that?

Here's the thing people - LIFE IS TOO SHORT.  Don't let assholes bring you down.  I don't care if they are family or not.  You know which relatives are supportive and which are not.  Avoid negativity at all costs!!  Stick to YOUR plan.  Eat what you want to eat whether that's a lot or a little.  Prepare for the comments that you know are going to happen and have a response.  It can be a bitchy response - if that's your style - or you can kill them with kindness.  Don't let them get to you!  It your life, your choices, and it's none of anyone else's fucking business unless you are specifically ask them for their input.

So for those of you who are lucky enough to have supportive family - relax and enjoy.  If you think you are going to experience a less then favorable day - hang in there and you do YOU!

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